What are the others supposed to think? Is that a thought that rules your life? Most people worry about what other people think of them and let that influence their actions. But how do you know you’re worrying too much? Find out how many of the following apply to you:
It is mostly a matter of social conditioning. We are brought up to conform to the applicable norms. Anything that deviates from this could lead to us being excluded from the community – so we fear. So we behave in accordance with the norm so as not to provoke any problems. Pay attention to why you care so much about the reactions of others and try to understand yourself better. Realize that this is social conditioning and there is nothing wrong with yourself. Fear of rejection is a result of our upbringing. As soon as you develop an awareness of this, it becomes easier for you to accept yourself.
Practice Self-love and Acceptance
The most efficient way to make you indifferent to the opinions of those around you is to love yourself. Love yourself unconditionally before anyone else. Always thinking about what others might believe and say shows low self-esteem. Boost your self-esteem and self-acceptance. You can achieve this by treating yourself mindfully. Take time every day to meditate, eat healthily, do sports, and spend time in nature regularly. Do things that are good for you. Develop a self-love routine over time. In this way you strengthen your self-confidence and are less dependent on the judgment of others. Over time you learn that only you can give yourself all the recognition and love that you used to seek outside.
Surround Yourself With People Who Are Good For You
There are energy vampires who suck the last juice out of you with their negative nature. You should avoid them like the devil avoids holy water. And there are positive people who like you, who see your strengths, who encourage you and who are simply good for you. You should make these people your friends and spend as much time as possible with them. Choose your friends carefully and think carefully about who suits you and who enriches your life – and also whose life you enrich. Cultivate these friendships, for they are precious and rare. In any case, they will ensure that you continue to develop your positive sides.
Accept That You Can’t Please Everyone
Franz Josef Strauss said “Everybody’s darling is everybody’s idiot.” You know that from yourself: you probably find people who curry favor with you and want to be loved at any price more repulsive than attractive. On the other hand, you are attracted to people who have a strong personality and a personality all their own.
There will always Be People Judging You For What You Do
. But most won’t even say it. Rather, they are fleeting thoughts that shoot through their heads. That’s OK. It is impossible to be loved by everyone, because people are simply too different for that.